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Why no one can be trusted – not even you

According to changingminds.org :

Trust is both an emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature.

We live in a world where “trust” is just a one-syllable word,a world where the word trust is thrown around loosely with no meaning. A world where the need for trust and the ability to retain trust is undermined. It’s a world where trust is so fragile and easily broken like a ceramic plate – this brings me to the question WHO CAN BE TRUSTED.

 
   Before you go listing all the people who had broken your trust in recent times,think are you a trustworthy person. It’s easy to see the wrong people have done, but ignore our very own. We’re all  guilty, we’ve at one point broken the trust of people with or without our knowledge. We might not have intended to but it happened.

It’s a fact that nobody can be trusted, we set ourselves up for heartbreak by expecting people to treat us the same way as we treat them. It was once a wise woman’s advice to trust no one, guard your heart,guard your emotional and mental health. Don’t give out information to people that will come back to judge or hunt you under the pretense of friendship or even relationship. The fact that one seems trustworthy now doesn’t mean they won’t change up on you later on.
  Secondly, learn the signs and watch your back, you get hurt when you ignore certain signals that are clearly sent before hand. Listen to the jokes your friends or partner says to you, some clothe a lot of anger,envy and jealousy in the name of jokes, so by the time they show their true forms you’re left with the fact that you were only a joke to them.
      Also, learn to enjoy your own company,learn to trust yourself ,your intuition and your emotions before trusting anyone else . Trust in your ability to live without whoever hurt you. Trust in your strength and in your ability to rise above your weaknesses. Develop yourself,depend on yourself not on anyone else because at the end of everything you’ve only yourself to pick you up. 
 
    Once trust is broken ,it can not be restored ,no matter how much you want things to go back to the way they were before ,the fact is the foundation of the friendship or relationship has  been shaken to the roots. After all we all know a building without a foundation is bound to fall no matter how long it remains standing.
   Guard your trust don’t give it away too easily to any Tom, Dick or Harry that shows any little interest in you or in your life. Guard the trust others have placed in you,  because if you lose it ,it’s impossible to get it back.
Be careful who you hurt under the impression of “they don’t matter” -you might need them real soon.

 

Who do you trust the most???

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Hey and welcome to my little corner Abbey's chronicles, a blog where I share my raw and unbiased thoughts on issues on mental health, lifestyle, wellness and self care. No topic is ever off limit as long as it affects lives and relationships, it's subject to discussion. This blog strives to provide solace for everyone going through issues they might not be able to talk about on a daily. My name is Abbey, a mental health advocate and enthusiast with a love for helping people who feel alone or are facing issues relating to life and mental health issues with the aim of raising awareness as well as providing succor. This blog was started as an avenue for me to deal with my own monsters. The aim of starting this blog was to for it to serve as some sort of therapy during my darkest times of depression and though it isn't all over yet, I hope this blog serves as a form of therapy to others going through similar issues relating to life and mental health. Finally in my free time I can be seen drowning in movies, food, sleep and books. I guess I am a blogger at night and an aspiring medical student at other times.

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