Now this is one controversial topic for sure, and this post is no way undermining the terrible effects of rape but rather to broaden the horizon ,and to bring light to the fact that a lot of people have been framed and their whole life destroyed by such accusations. We live in a society that somehow tends to to always believe the story of the female irrespective of the situation, and some girls tends to misuse the society’s trust and conjure up lies destined to thwart an innocent man’s life.
Rape, as defined by https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape , is ” a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual assault or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person’s consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent. The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.
For this post I’ll be taking life stories from people who have gone through this, one story that has really touched me is that of Brian Banks– at the time of this incident which am sure has left a dent in his life forever, Banks was a standout high school football player, he was also listed among the “juniors to watch out for” by rivals.com before he had to be expelled over an accusation made by a girl named Wanetta Gibson that he had raped her. Banks was arrested and without the carrying out of any investigation by the law enforcement was charged for rape. Now a rape charge carries a 41years sentence or life sentence,hence he was advised by his then lawyer to take a plea deal of 5yrs imprisonment, 5yrs probation and registration as a sex offender which would have potentially ruined his hope of ever playing football again. He served five years in jail and after getting out on patrol in 2011, he received a message from Wanetta on Facebook asking to see him where she confessed that she falsely accused him after collecting a whooping sun of $1.5million from the school after suing it for “been an unsafe environment”.
Thankfully for Brian an organization dealing with such cases, the ” California innocence project” ,took up his case and got additional evidence to prove his innocence and have him acquitted. With the school winning a $2.6million settlement. Brian has now gotten his footballing dreams back on track, so in a way one might be tempted to say it turned out well in the end- but that’s wrong.
Basically what I am trying to bring out from this real- life kinda horror story is that,our society has been conditioned intact it has been drilled into our minds that women are always the victims,we’re always the ones been picked upon, we’re always the one been looked down on, molested, disenfranchised, manipulated and trampled upon because we are regarded as the “weaker vessels”. Now I am not about to frown on the fact that bitter acts such as rape are been committed against women but rather I also want to bring out the fact ,that not everyone that ” cries wolf has actually seen a wolf”. We as a society have collectively failed those men who have had their names and reputation dragged through he mud all because a woman has decided to ride on how seriously the society frowns on such acts to exact revenge or just to gain the spotlight.
As such cases of fraudulent rape accusations keep coming to light it begins to bring into question if and whether all rape accusations should and can be believed. It begins to bring into questioning the seriousness of such accusations and begins to belittle the truthful tale of woes told by women who have gone through this and are trying to finally get closure by coming forward with the truth. It !might be all fun and games to just call up the police and say so and so tried to molest you maybe because the breakup was bad or you feel like you’ve been done wrong to ,but for once just try and think of the many women going through such experiences on a daily who won’t be given a listening ear because piece of shits like you have manipulated the process and sympathy to suit yourself. You’ve made it easier for guys who are actually guilty of such to ride on stories of false rape accusations and gain their freedom by crying and hinging their stories based on other innocent men. You basically are ruining a man’s present and future for your own gain. No matter the wrong a man does to you, falsely accusing him of rape is now at to get self justification. It’s no way to get fulfillment or vengeance and trust me even God would spit at you for such. Imagine that been done to your son or your father ,imagine the hurt these men go through when even their own families at rimes fail to believe them. No race deserves to have the term “rapists” placed on their men. Sorry guys but I have to deviate a bit here and bring the matter close to home ,check this out more than half of the men who’ve been false accused are black men, now am not trying to saying we don’t have black guys that do wrong but having this pinned without any investigation whatsoever but just because a white woman or even a black woman as well accuses a black man of rape one immediately rushes into conclusion that he must have done it – is quite derogatory and sincerely stupid on the part of any society. Judgements of any kind shouldn’t be based on race,ethnicity or wealth but rather on facts, evidence and testimonies as well as a thorough investigation.
Now to pur security agencies and people in position of power , when claims of such acts are made the right thing isn’t to jump on the bandwagon of “he must die” but rather to dutifully do your job by investigating such cases to the barest minimum. Don’t feel or assume that the female side is the right side, it’s better to double check your facts than to later be confronted with the fact that a person’s life was ruined because you couldn’t do your investigation properly.
Please and please ,it’s time we begin to realize that women could be wrong too and that men could be abused ,assaulted and lied against just as well. Sexual assault or any form of assault for that matter shouldn’t just be limited to a single gender or a single group of people. We should be fair to both genders and to both sexes. We really don’t know whose life can be saved ❤.