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#MENTALHEALTHSERIES continued. D.S.S – depression, suicide and self-harm.

Suicide is said to have occurred when one takes his or her own life due to their own personal reasons caused by situations or circumstances they find themselves in. Suicide most times is as a result of depression. Though depression isn’t mainly or always the main cause of suicide but it does count as a risk factor. The thought of suicide is a nagging thought ,one hears voices each of those voices attacks our self worth and our decision to remain alive. Those voices spare no negativity.
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According to;  there is no single mental illness diagnosis that is exclusively responsible for death by suicide. The majority of people who live with a mental illness do not attempt nor die by suicide.  Some estimated facts:

  • 85%-98% of people diagnosed with depression do not die by suicide.
  • 80%-97% of people diagnosed with bipolar illness do not die by suicide.
  • 85%-94% of people diagnosed with schizophrenia do not die by suicide.

Risk for death by suicide is increased if a person suffers from depression alongside schizophrenia, bipolar illness, substance abuse, anxiety disorders. Those who struggle with a diagnosed personality disorder can be up to 3x more likely to die by suicide then those without and, risk is increased if they also struggle with a substance abuse disorder.  It occurs about 3× more in males than females.
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Suicide isn’t an easy decision to make and I beg to differ with people who feel like suicide is cowardice. It takes quite a lot of courage to take such a step. No one deserves to be so broken that they feel like suicide is the only option. No family or friend deserves to have the guilt of the death of a family member encarved into their heart forever ,they don’t deserve to be put through a lifetime of built wishing they could have done something differently. You are way stronger than that ,I knwo it might not look like it right now, but think of it you’ve survived and you have kept faith and hope alive all this time then why give up now. No matter how unbearable life is,I know you might think that no one can understand the pain stabbing at your heart, the endless voices telling you to take a shortcut and just spare yourself the pain, no one might understand what is going on in your life or the pressure you’re been placed under or the things you’re forced to do beyond closed doors or the abuse and insults you’ve to endure.
Yes you’re right I might have no idea,I might just seem like one of those people who sit on their high judgemental chairs and just judge other peoples decisions, but I am here to tell you that though I might not fully understand what you’re going through, one thing I know for sure is that there’s a lot of potential buried inside of you. The world cannot lose you,the world needs that potential inside of you that’s yet to be harnessed. Your mother needs to see  her daughter to down the aisle and hold her grandchild, she wants to share those jokes and secrets with you, she wants to watch you grow up into a beautiful young lady or a handsome young man, your father wants to walk you down that aisle, your father wants to hold your hand and watch you grow up to the person you’re meant to be and who he’ll be proud of. Your friend wants to walk with you to school,wants to eat lunch with you,wants to share gossips and play games with you, your friend wants to watch you gush about tour first crush,your love, your friend wants to we you get married and wants your kids to be best friends with theirs, your friends want to call you up and spill their problems knowing they can count on you.
Your siblings want y’all to grow old together,secure the bag together and spoil each other crazy,they want to exchange embarrassing pictures and stories about you to friends and even on your wedding day?. Your child wants to make you proud,they want to see a smile on mummy or daddy’s face,they want to exchange stories with you and just have the feeling of knowing that you’re will always be with them. Your grandparents want to spend their their old years with their children and you their grandchild surrounding them. Your husband wants to wake up seeing that pretty face of yours, he wants you to be the mother of his kids and wants his daughter to be a replication of you,he wants to spend his entire life with you. Your wife/gf wants to wake up knowing she has a handsome man by her side who loves and cherishes her, she wants to one day have your kids and build a family with you .
So don’t take this decision with the idea that no one will care or it won’t affect anybody. Don’t take such a selfish decision because as you “relieve” yourself by this decision, you’re plunging those around you and those who sincerely love you into a lifetime of guilt and sadness  that they may never recover nor forgive you for.

You see the devil gives us this fake idea that by committing suicide we’re getting rid of our pain since no one seems to care anyway,and he would make you feel that by saying a word of prayer before committing suicide will spare you from the eternal damnation which your act will cause-well that is and will always be a big lie. Once one commits suicide the fact is that your eternity will certainly be hell. Am not being Mrs judgemental pants over here but the Bible is clear and God will never go back on his words for anyone nor for any reason. He says that…”if you cannot make nor count the number of hairs on your head then what right do you have to take your life or someone else’s “. So unless you give me a man that can accurately count the number of hairs on his head then the Bible remains the same. So why would you want to suffer from whatever you’re suffering from right now and still go and suffer for eternity in hell fire . Does it make sense ?? Is that a good or wise decision??

Suicide is not about a moral weakness or a character flaw. People considering suicide feel as though their pain will never end and that suicide is the only way to stop the suffering. You deserve to be alive, you deserve the most out of life, the world deserves to have your imprint  on it as one of the greats❤.

   We as a world don’t deserve you, we NEED you. You’re a scarce commodity, you’re one in a lifetime individual. Don’t deny us of your presence because of the stupidity and inactions of a few.

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Risk factors of suicide are;
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How to reduce cases of suicide
According to this can be done by;

  • Reducing access to the means of suicide (e.g. pesticides, medication, guns).
  • Treating people with mental disorders (particularly those with depression, alcoholism, and schizophrenia).
  • Providing follow-up to people who have made suicide attempts.
  • Responsible media reporting.
  • Training primary health care workers.
  • Mental health promotion

And if you’re beginning to have such thoughts please seek help, don’t hold back because you feel like a burden to those around you. Trust me they would rather be “burdened and have you well and alive “.   Get appropriate help from appropriate people and sources such as psychologists and physiotherapists. The world deserves to see you blossom right through this challenges and have you as a beacon of light and hope to lead someone else out of such darkness.

Feel free to hit me up if you ever feel like talking❤❤


Self harm is the process of inflicting injuries intentionally most usually cuts on oneself to relieve tension or anxiety usually brought about by depression. It’s not always by cutting, it could also be by burning, hair pulling etc.

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For those involved self harm provides a sense of relief from whatever pain they’re going through,it helps them  forget the pain inflicted on them by their family,friends and society by inflicting injuries on themselves as well.
Self harm has been known to be addictive at a point, because one begins to see it as the solution to pain. At a point one even becomes numb to the pain felt while cutting across their skin because at that point it feels normal. It’s a temporary relief from certain situations such as depression, anxiety,bullying,bipolar disorder,abuse and even failure. According to statistics it’s more common in females than in males and affects people within the ages of 12-24yrs of age.
This usually leaves those affected with scars that they tend to be ashamed of. This scars become a reminder of the pain they’ve had to face. And also limits the ability to actually trust others as they tend to be self conscious of the the scars.
Some symptoms of self harm according to  If you suspect your family or friend might be involved in this , this might be some signs to look out for;

    1. Excessive rubbing of an area to create a burn
    2. Keeping sharp objects on hand
    3. Wearing long sleeves or long pants, even in hot weather
    4. Frequent reports of accidental injury
    5. Difficulties in interpersonal relationships
    6. Behavioral and emotional instability, impulsivity and unpredictability
    7. Statements of helplessness,hopelessness and worthlessness
    8. Scars often in patterns
    9. Fresh cuts or wounds

     It’s time to come out from that shell,it’s time to stop hiding behind those baggy clothes and those long sleeves,it’s time to stand up and take your life in your own hands. It’s time to channel that energy and pain into something more meaningful, you’re too beautiful or handsome to do this to yourself. There are ways to channel your pain into incentives to force you into been a better version of yourself. Those scars cannot and will not define who you’re. It might have defined your past but it sure as hell isn’t defining your present and will not define your future. Like Alexia sang “scars to your beautiful”. You’re a beauty, a master piece, those scars shouldn’t remind you to reach for another blade but rather should remind you of what you’ve gone through and you’re still standing and you’re still alive. You aren’t as weak as you’re been made to believe, you’re strong and you need to divert that strength into a passion to push past this dark times, cause baby girl/ boo there’s a bright light at the end of that tunnel that’ll totally illuminate your life forever.

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If there is anything you feel I missed then feel free to write it in the comments. Love y’all❤❤

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Hey and welcome to my little corner Abbey's chronicles, a blog where I share my raw and unbiased thoughts on issues on mental health, lifestyle, wellness and self care. No topic is ever off limit as long as it affects lives and relationships, it's subject to discussion. This blog strives to provide solace for everyone going through issues they might not be able to talk about on a daily. My name is Abbey, a mental health advocate and enthusiast with a love for helping people who feel alone or are facing issues relating to life and mental health issues with the aim of raising awareness as well as providing succor. This blog was started as an avenue for me to deal with my own monsters. The aim of starting this blog was to for it to serve as some sort of therapy during my darkest times of depression and though it isn't all over yet, I hope this blog serves as a form of therapy to others going through similar issues relating to life and mental health. Finally in my free time I can be seen drowning in movies, food, sleep and books. I guess I am a blogger at night and an aspiring medical student at other times.

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