Hey guys, well this is a continuation to the mental health series I started last year , this is for anyone and everyone who is tired of constantly been body shamed, constantly been looked down on cause of your body type. We all have been at that point in our lives where things people say actually affect us, i know we all say “oh i don’t give a damn what people say” but lowkey we know its hurting us deep inside, its eating us up within, we lowkey look into the mirror judging all our flaws some of us are scared of looking at the mirror cause we are disgusted by our reflection . Some of us are on social media after all who isn’t right , i know for one when i go online am bombarded with with pictures of ladies who look so perfect makeup on fleek, eyebrows on fleek, lipstick on fleek, d figure eight shape nd all, and then i just look at myself and i feel like when they’re girls like that which guy would want someone as skinny as i am.. I am forever insecure about my relationship cause i feel there are so many ladies out there that aren’t as skinny as i am. I feel insecure to meet new people especially guys because i feel the first thing everyone seems to notice is
Omg see how skinny she’s, she looks so malnourished, she can break at any moment now, does she even eat at all, is she in a diet, look how flat that ass is, look how thin does legs are(are those are legs cause i thought they were sticks?).
The hurtful part is when you see those judgmental eyes ? running up and down your body as they try taking in your appearance and all you can do is to just stand there and watch them with a smile on your face so they don’t think your weak. Constantly having to change your clothes cause you feel you look more lyk a “broomstick” in them or when you wear them and someone walks up to you and tells you “this dress doesn’t fit your body” they feel its a joke but knowing deep down your self confidence is lowering at each words.. I remember my very close friend once told me to my face.
…… you are very ugly, i feel ashamed walking with you, you are so skinny and boring. Have you looked at your face before.
These words are forever carved into my mind i can never forget them she thought it was all a joke but it wasn’t at all funny to me.
I know we all have our experiences you might be fat or skinny , you could be a lady , a teenager , a woman, a man, a boy anything and whatever and whoever you might be all i care about is us coming together to bring out the beauty in each other, to be there for each other, to love each other for who we really are and not who others feel we should be Life is too short for negative energy and vibe.
Now in case we all feel this relates only to the ladies,then you’re damn wrong .The men aren’t exempted , we might not notice it but there’s a glorified body shape women feel men should have or rather the society feel men should have. But we’ve woven a web where the men feel like they cannot or should not talk about this,which is wrong.
No one has a right to feel lesser than they are. And if whenever you feel like you need to change either due to health reasons or for your own sake,then by all means go for a change. Start the exercise, start that diet, start eating more,cut off the alcohol etc. But make sure that whenever you feel like changing your body type,that it’s for the right reasons and not because of the societal pressure because the pressure can only fuel your drive to a certain limit. But when you’re indeed commuted to change for tour own happiness and benefit,your determination I’ll be the fuel to your fire.
Hope you guys enjoyed part2 of this series. This post was culled from my original post on my previous blog www.slimbitch.wordpress.com – for the purpose of this blog and since I clearly have stopped using my previous blog I’ll be reposting all my previous posts to this blog.❤
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